Marriage

Our oldest sister lives with her family in the US for 7 years already. I went there last 2008 as a “Debut gift” instead of throwing a huge party. I stayed with them for 2 months which made me realize how she longs for one of her sisters to be there for her always. Anyway, she celebrated her 44^th birthday last Sunday.

She sent me a message Monday evening telling me how sad her birthday is because her husband isn’t talking to her since Saturday. I felt really sad about it. It’s her birthday! She shouldn’t feel that way.

I gave her my point of view. She was like, “There's no such thing as marriage made in heaven. I celebrate my birthday once a year. I was hoping he would treat me as a queen and not as a slave.”

I bet you’re wondering what I told her.

“An argument is normal in marriage but you have to compromise. That’s the sense of the relationship, to serve each other for better or for worse.”

I believe there is such thing as marriage made in heaven. Not necessarily perfect but guided. There are lots of couples who witnessed it. The only challenge is to pursue God first, everything would follow.

I read a blog from a Single Guy, I don't know his name but he inspired me so much & I want to share it with you:

Dear Single Girl,

I don’t know you personally, yet, but there are a few things I want to tell you with the hope that I will get to know you some day.

Actually, there are 5 things I want you to know:

1. How to get a man’s attention. The guy that you are looking for isn’t attracted to charm as much as he is Godliness because beauty fades but Godliness GROWS (1 Peter 3:3-5). I know that the culture will tell you that guys are turned away and intimidated by girls that love Jesus and have strong values and convictions. Culture is wrong; boys may be turned away by strong convictions, but men are not. Be the woman God has called you to be, and a godly man will notice.

2. Run from “Prince Charming”. Some girls seem to give attention to every smooth talker and cool dresser that comes their way. Please don’t do that; be patient and wait on a man who is concerned with pursuing Jesus, not another trophy. Only give the GROWING, God fearing man a chance to pursue you. Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain (Prov 31:30).

3. I am just a guy, not a god. A guy will crumble under the weight of being your god. No other person can complete you or make you happy. There are lots of great physical and emotional benefits that come from a relationship, but none of it is enough to sustain a healthy loving marriage if your faith is not in Jesus. No guy will complete you, so don’t put him on that pedestal (he will fall).

4. Don’t wait on me, pursue Jesus. From my male perspective, there is nothing more attractive than a woman being obedient to Jesus and taking the risk to follow Jesus wherever He leads. Too many times I notice girls in the church just sitting and waiting on a man to come and rescue them from a life of boredom. When it comes time for me to pick a partner, I want somebody that can follow me on an adventure, not someone that is used to doing nothing and complaining about the fact that no one is interested in them. Pursue Jesus and I will pursue you when He gives me the green light.

5. Time is not running out. Singleness is a gift, not a curse. You want to be beautiful? Put your hope in God and don’t give way to fear; trust his timing (1 John 4:18). Don’t waste your single years by always waiting on what is next and turning yourself into a man chaser. Let’s follow God right now and trust Him to take care of the next. God is sovereign and able to direct both of us to each other when the time is right.

Until Then,

A Single Guy

Originally posted on: https://www.facebook.com/loveiscourtship

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God bless! :)